Why do narcissists ignore texts and lie? Narcissists are not easy people to share a relationship with for lots of reasons, but why are they like that?
Narcissists have excessive interest and admiration in themselves. That is the driving factor for narcissists. They crave attention, are likely to gloat or brag about themselves, and prefer to keep the topic revolving around them. But why do narcissists ignore texts or do other selfish things?
What is a narcissist?
As I said, narcissists are extremely self-involved people. This can be minor but can also be so intense that this person is delusional, entitled, cruel, and even lacks any guilt.
It is likely you have picked up on some of these characteristics if you know a narcissist. And ignoring texts may be just one of the selfish things they do, but why?
Why are narcissists selfish?
Narcissism is actually a personality disorder. It is not always that severe, but when it is, this person cares more about themselves than others. Technically it is not their fault, but it is still immensely difficult to feel bad for a narcissist.
Their selfishness goes beyond not wanting to help someone move or being too lazy to make dinner for your family. If what they are doing does not benefit them, make them the center of attention, or putting others down, it is simply not something they want to do.
Why do narcissists ignore texts?
If you text a narcissist saying congratulations, they will likely reply and continue to boast about whatever they did. But if you text a narcissist about a problem you’re having, to chat about someone else, or even to share important news, they will likely ignore it.
If it is not critical to their expanding ego, they are simply not interested. They may even glance at the text, see it isn’t about them, and just not care at all. Narcissists believe it is their right to gain attention and flattery and they will do anything to make sure that that is what their life is about.
If you are trying to carry out a relationship with a narcissist, whether that be a platonic one, a romantic one, or even a professional one, it will be very difficult to deal with someone like this.
Selfish behaviors of a narcissist
Some things you may notice from a narcissist might seem minor while others can seem completely rude and cruel. But if you notice these repeating behaviors from someone, they are likely a narcissist.
Why? Because that is all they know. Narcissists live in a type of fantasy world where they are the most important person and everyone else is beneath them. So these are just some of the behaviors of a narcissist.
#1 Ignoring texts. Even though we always spoke about this, I think it is important to mention. Yes, some people are just not good at responding to texts. I am one of them, but if I see something important I respond ASAP. That is the difference between a bad texter and a narcissist.
Unless the text is about stroking a narcissist’s ego, they will likely ignore it. They may even text you about something regarding them while completely ignoring what you sent.
#2 Bragging. A narcissist continuously brags about their successes. They will even lie and bend the truth to make themselves seem more amazing. They will say they are the reason their company is doing so well, when in fact, they did nothing to get the company there.
They will turn any and all conversations into a confidence-boosting rant.
#3 Bullying. Another way for narcissists to soothe or inflate their ego is by belittling others, especially those who are truly better at things than them. Think about how Trump slams all the good work Obama has done. When a narcissist knows someone is more loved or admired, they have to be cruel to them.
They are also highly judgmental about anyone that does not agree with them.
#4 Lack of politeness. Narcissists demand politeness from others but completely lack it themselves. They will not hold doors open for others, they will not offer an umbrella to someone in the rain, and they will never ask what you want to do.
#5 Anger at those who don’t feed their ego. Narcissists tend to surround themselves with people they know will tell them what they want to hear. They will make friends with people they know will compliment them. So when someone questions them, they will not take it lightly. They will be angry and even vengeful.
#6 Childish outbursts. When a two-year-old bursts out crying because their mother wouldn’t buy them a lollipop, it is expected. But when a grown man bursts out with a temper tantrum because they couldn’t get what he wanted, that is a clear sign of narcissistic personality disorder.
#7 Expecting praise. A narcissist has this idea that they are loved and praised by everyone simply for being them and regardless of anything bad they have done. So they expect respect, praise, and admiration from everyone.
They will be shocked and angry when someone does not follow their fantasy.
#8 Lack of remorse. A narcissist does not believe they need to apologize or feel guilty for anything they do. They will ignore you, bully you, talk down to others, but never admit they did anything wrong or say sorry.
#9 Blames others. When a narcissist does not get their way or even makes a mistake, they will always blame someone else. They will throw others under the bus to make themselves look better.
They will say someone else gave them incorrect information, they will blame poor people for being poor, they will blame their partner for making them late. Nothing is ever a narcissist’s fault in their mind.
#10 Oblivious to others. Narcissists lack awareness. They cannot see what anyone else needs or wants. If it is not about them they just do not see it. If their partner is shivering they would never offer their jacket or lay a blanket over them.
These are only some of the characteristics and behaviors a narcissist shows regularly.
Why do narcissists devalue you
If you have any type of relationship with a narcissist, after a while their true colors will be revealed, and they will treat you only as a means to an end.
You may be a trophy to them. They may treat you as an employee rather than a friend or loved one. And if anything goes wrong, they will likely blame you if you are close to them.
A narcissist needs those closest to them to stroke their ego and to make them feel good. So anytime that is lacking they will devalue you only as someone who is there to improve their life.
Narcissists will not admit they need you or that you are vital to them maintaining their status. They will likely emotionally abuse you so that you are stuck with them, and they always feel superior. They do this so that in their mind and in yours, they will be on top.
Why do narcissists ignore texts or throw tantrums? Now that you know the reasons and the way their minds work, do you really want them around in your life? All said and done, never stay around a narcissist unless you really have to, and even then, keep them at arm’s length!