You more than likely know this from your own experiences, but it is worth repeating here again: a good profile photo is the most important thing about your profile!
While we all like to think we are not shallow, a profile picture is your one chance, to attract interest at a glance. When you click through someone’s profile pages, what often tips the balance in your favour are the pictures you have put up.
Take a photo which really expresses your own personality. Do not try to be someone else – because if you are meeting the person you feel attracted to for the first time, he or she will see straight away through your rouse. Take a new, up-to-date portrait picture which you think really shows who you are. If you are not the photographed kind, don’t be shy in asking a friend to take a few informal shots for you to use.
Don’t be too sexy
Always keep in mind that if you are looking for a long-term relationship, kinky or erotic photos are not what other people want to see when they try to find a potential partner. You might give the impression of having just one thing in mind when looking for someone. Moreover, it seems disingenuous and a bit desperate as well. This should be obvious, but you would be surprised at how many people get this most important part wrong. Let me spell this out for you:
- Do not send pictures of your penis, unless specifically asked to.
- So you have a six pack? well done and keep your shirt on. Women have an uncanny ability to detect fitness without you forcing it on them.
- Cleavage attracts creeps
- Do not only upload group pictures of you and your beautiful friends. It’s you we are interested in, not your mates Shelley and Brian.
- Do not upload badly edited photos where you ex is crudely cut out on your dream holiday cruise to the Maldives.
A friendly smile
People who look very friendly in pictures have a better chance to get a message from others than those who have a serious face, or worse still, a “duck face” pose.
Go for a nice picture of you in which you are showing your best smile! This shows that you are a sympathetic, open and friendly person. And this is what your profile picture should transmit – a positive first impression!