You’ve been thinking about how to be a sugar daddy, but you’re not too sure how it works. It’s time you learned what you need to do.
I can’t say I’ve been a sugar momma, but I know a couple sugar babies. They seem to be doing just fine with their sugar daddies. Let’s just say, I have the inside scoop. It’s not necessarily as simple as just throwing money at someone. I know, that’s what all the movies like to portray, but let’s be honest, this is the real world. There are rules to abide by if you want to know how to be a sugar daddy.
How to be a sugar daddy
Now, if you just accidentally landed on this page, you’re probably asking yourself, what is a sugar daddy/sugar baby? That’s a very good question. Basically, a sugar daddy is someone who provides financial assistance to their sugar baby. You can be a sugar momma with a male or female sugar baby, or you can be a sugar daddy with a male or female sugar baby, whatever your sexual preference is, you’ll be able to find someone.
Essentially, a sugar daddy and sugar baby have a relationship which is either sexual or non-sexual, it depends on what you’ve agreed to. But I don’t want to get into details right now, I’m going to dive into it further on, so keep reading. There are some things you need to know for how to be a sugar daddy.
#1 Understand that this is an agreement. When you’re in a sugar relationship, this isn’t a committed relationship. I’m not saying feelings cannot develop, but generally, this is something that develops within the sugar relationship.
In the beginning, you and your sugar baby may go for coffee or dinner where you test the chemistry. Then, talk about an arrangement. Understand from the beginning that you don’t own your sugar baby nor are they committed to you outside of the arrangement.
#2 Know what you want. When making the arrangement, tell your potential sugar baby everything that you want from the relationship. Do you want it to be a sexual relationship? If so, how far would you like it to go? This needs to be extremely clear when you’re talking to your sugar baby. They need to clearly state what they’re willing and unwilling to do. You can decide if you want to proceed or not.
#3 What are you going to offer? You also need to know what you’re going to offer your potential sugar baby. What are you able to provide them? It can be cash, shoes, clothing, trips. Be clear with yourself on what you can provide and then clear with the sugar baby on what you’re able to offer. Don’t present yourself as something you’re not. Make sure your offerings fit in your budget.
#4 Be honest. Listen, if you lie, you’re going to get yourself into a boatload of trouble. If you want to know how to be a sugar daddy and do it right, you need to be 100% honest when negotiating with your sugar baby. This is a relationship based on fulfilling each other’s need, so, you have to be completely open and honest with what you’re able to provide and what you’re wanting to receive.
#5 Take it slow. When you’re a first-time sugar daddy it can be really exciting, and you probably want to jump into bed right away. Don’t do it. If you want to be a successful sugar daddy, you need your sugar baby to become comfortable around you. You don’t know who they are on a first date and vice versa, so, take your time and go on a couple of dates before making a move.
#6 Keep the boundaries firm. Remember when I spoke about being honest and expressing your needs when making the arrangement? Good, you were paying attention. The arrangement you made, that boundary needs to be firmly in place.
It’s best if you have in writing the expectations of the relationship, that way, you both know where the boundaries are. If both of you want to change the boundaries, then you both need to agree on it.
#7 Put in an effort. When you’re on a date with your sugar baby, you need to put in effort. Naturally, there needs to be an emotional and physical connection between you and your sugar baby which means you get to know them on a personal level.
If you want to have a fulfilling relationship, you need to work on making the other person happy and vice versa. So, why not have her actually like you? The same goes either way around as well.
#8 Be respectful: You need to be respectful with your sugar baby. Some people feel that they’re buying time, and thus, can treat their sugar baby however they want, but it doesn’t work like that. Yes, a sugar relationship isn’t necessarily a traditional relationship, but that’s not the point. This isn’t just a business transaction, this is a relationship with another human being.
#9 It’s not all about the money. You may feel like you need to “get your money’s worth,” but that’s not how you should view the relationship. At the end of the day, it’s a relationship. Of course, you have money and the sugar baby has the goods, but it shouldn’t feel like a trade.
This relationship is about fulfilling each other’s needs, don’t think of it as much different than buying your girlfriend lingerie once a month.
#10 Be patient. Finding the right sugar baby for you isn’t going to be as easy as you think. You want someone that you connect with, so, this may take a couple of dates with a couple of different sugar babies. But what you need to do is be patient. The right sugar baby will come! One that likes the arrangement and feels a connection with you.
#11 Remember, you don’t own them. It’s really important to emphasize this: just because you have a sugar relationship doesn’t mean you own your sugar baby. They can cut the arrangement any time they like, or you can cut it as well. You are your own person and so is your sugar baby. So, if you want your name to have a good rap, then remember this the next time you go on a date.
Now that you know how to be a sugar daddy, what are you thinking? Going to try your hand at it? Or let someone else test it out?