There’s not a woman alive who hasn’t had those crazy eyes spinning. Yes, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, but don’t make us all look bad!
We all know about Hurricane Katrina. Like Katrina, when a woman has been screwed over, there is no place that is safe from her wrath. Okay, so the phrase, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, may just be a stereotype, but who among us hasn’t plotted and planned for making people who’ve made our lives miserable feel the same thing?
Karma may be a bitch, but she doesn’t even hold a candle to the revenge that a woman can unleash on either a man or woman who has messed with her in one way or another. The problem is that what goes around comes around, and there are times when revenge may be sweet, but being a good person is sweeter.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scored – 13 reasons why you should turn the other cheek
The best thing you can do to get back at a guy who mistreated you, cheated on you, or just didn’t know what he had, is to move on and not give him the time of day.
Before you decide to call up the depths of hell to unleash on the person who did you wrong, think about all these reasons you should learn to turn the other cheek and let fate do its own thing. That way, you’ll stop your head from turning 360 degrees and screaming hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
#1 Don’t give him the satisfaction. He’s not that special. If someone scorned you, then don’t waste another moment thinking about them. Clearly, you have already invested too much time into someone who wasn’t doing the same. If he treated you like you were insignificant, you aren’t going to change his mind by acting all crazy.
#2 Don’t prove him right. Most guys rationalize their behavior by setting the women in their lives off. If you take revenge or do something evil, that will do nothing but give him more reason to blame the failure of your relationship on you. We sometimes live up to the expectations that people put on us. Don’t live up to his. Instead, live up to your own by showing your maturity and moving on without leaving tread marks.
#3 Take the high road. Remember, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned is not taking the high road. I know that sometimes it feels really good to wish others ill, but it doesn’t always get you the results you want.
Being vengeful takes a lot of energy and won’t make you feel like a good person. If you walk away holding your head high and with dignity, then you never have to think twice about your behavior. You conducted yourself with class and grace.
#4 Being ugly makes you ugly. When he tells the story of what happened between the two of you, don’t let him tell one of your ugliness. Being ugly just makes you ugly, and that is not what you want to leave behind when you go.
#5 It might come back to bite you later on. Those of us who live in small towns know that shit always comes back to bite us in the ass. Karma is a bitch, and it loves coming after someone after they have been one.
Imagine sometime in the future when you like a guy, and he hears the story about what you did to get revenge on your ex… he will probably consider your past before making a future with you.
#6 It probably won’t give you the satisfaction you are looking for. Ah… is there anything better than the feeling of revenge? Actually, the thought of revenge is always way more satisfying that the real thing.
Typically, when we do things out of spite, they never work out the way that we want. Revenge usually involves us losing our sense of right and wrong and taking it too far. In the end, you will probably end up feeling stupid and wishing that you’d just left it alone. So, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned is really overrated.
#7 The best way to gain revenge is to be happy and loved. The best revenge that you can ever impose on a guy who messed with you is to find someone else to take his place. Guys who mistreat women feel powerful, and if you spend your time plotting and planning, you are only giving him more power.
The best way to get revenge is to move on and never give him another thought. He will feel worse about you not caring enough even to make a move, than anything you can think of to get back at him. It will only give him ammunition against you.
#8 Leave him guessing. If he knows that he did you wrong, then just leave him guessing. The anxiety of wondering what you are going to do is better than any real thing that you can do. Constantly having to watch his back, sometimes not making a move is more of a move than doing something ridiculous.
#9 You could end up in trouble. Sometimes revenge might be damaging his car, or doing something to his house like breaking in. There are times when you can take revenge too far, and if you do, you’ll end up paying for your mistakes.
Remember, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned isn’t a defense if you get arrested or taken to court for doing something to his property, or even to him. Do you really think that hell hath no wrath like a woman scorned is worth going to jail? Nope.
#10 You’re an adult. There is a certain way that adults are supposed to behave, and getting revenge on someone is the way that children behave. As adults, we are supposed to be able to handle our emotions and guide our behaviors with maturity.
Instead of doing something stupid and thinking that you will “show him,” show him you are adult enough to walk away and say “adios.”
#11 What if you are wrong. Sometimes we, well, jump to conclusions that may or may not be true. If you act impulsively or upon bad information from someone else, you may be killing the ability that you have to move forward and to make amends.
Just because someone says they saw him cheating on you, don’t take steps for revenge – especially if you don’t know for sure that your information is correct. God forbid you do something to hurt him only to find that it was all a misunderstanding or based on gossip. If you think that you’re going to be acting like hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, you might end up being the one who is scorned instead.
#12 Stop perpetuating the myth! I don’t know about you, but I am tired of hearing that a woman simply can’t control herself or that our gender is tied to the inability to be rational.
Every time that someone from our team spray paints a car, blows a tire, or scorches clothes in the front lawn, you are giving us all a bad name. This time, don’t give into the stereotype even if what he did really sucks. Take one for the team. [Confession: I cheated on my boyfriend and I feel a lot better]
#13 There is a reason “Mother’s guilt” is so powerful. Instead of seeking revenge and running around with crazy eyes, do what our mother’s perfected so well – be nice. It is way more revengeful to let them know in no uncertain terms what a dirtbag they are by killing them with kindness and showing ourselves the door with grace. Make sure to add an “I forgive you” on the way out for added guilt.
We have all had that moment when a monster feels like it starts in our toes and makes it way all the way to our mouth and hands. Before things get out of control and you want to explode and be the fury of folklore, think rationally, slow things down, and take the high road.
There are times when we only make ourselves look bad in an attempt to make ourselves feel good. If you do something you can’t take back, paint yourself in an ugly light, or get into trouble over trying to seek revenge, the only one you will be hurting is you.
The best way to get revenge from a person who treated you badly is by finding someone to treat you right. It will prove to you, your ex, and the world, that your ex’s ugliness is all on him. Then you won’t ever feel like hell hath no fury like a woman scorned ever again.