What are the things to say to a girl you like to get her to like you? There is a lot you can say, but here is what you should say.
When it comes to girls, we are not as complicated as you like to think we are. Yes, we are not simple, but in order to get our attention, you don’t have to do or say anything crazy. The things to say to a girl you like are pretty simple.
And more importantly, you do not have to make a big grand gesture. Girls like guys you are honest, confident, and open-minded.
Things NOT to say to a girl you like
As I said, girls don’t need big gestures and romantic confessions to like you or to notice that you like us. If you want to get a girl to like you, avoid saying these things.
And it isn’t just the act of saying them, but also believing them. Here is a list of things you should never say to a girl you like. Really any girl. Ever.
#1 Anything that starts with “no offense, but…”
#2 Are you on your period?
#3 You’re wearing too much makeup or not enough makeup.
#4 You’re not like other girls.
#5 You should eat more/less.
#6 You’d be perfect if…
#7 I’m not a feminist.
#8 Women complain too much.
#9 It was just a joke or you take everything so seriously.
#10 Calm down.
There are probably hundreds of more things I could add to this list. I’m hoping you get the picture. Saying anything along the lines of the ten things above is not only unattractive but also mostly misogynistic, ignorant, and sexist.
Being any of those things is a surefire way to turn off a girl you like.
Things to say to a girl you like
Now for the positives. Hopefully, you now know what sorts of things to avoid saying and even thinking. But you may get tongue-tied around a girl you like, knowing some things to say ahead of time is great.
Now, don’t just say these things out of the blue. You have to know how to read a situation and when something is appropriate. For instance, don’t tell her she is beautiful if she is talking about her cat’s UTI. It may take some practice to learn how to smoothly ease these things into a conversation. You can do it.
Girls will appreciate the effort you’re taking to learn what things to say to a girl you like.
#1 You’re beautiful. But give specifics and don’t make this the focus. It is always nice to hear. However, girls want to know our looks aren’t the only reason you’re interested.
#2 You’re smart. All women are smart in their own way. Some have intense common sense, others are scientific geniuses. Telling a woman you admire her mind and how it works means more than any physical compliment.
#3 I love how opinionated you are. Seeing as so many men seem to hate when women have opinions, actually complimenting her on her strength and convictions will mean a lot to her. She will take notice and appreciate that you like her ability to speak up on topics she is passionate about.
#4 You’re right. No, girls are not always right. When we are, admitting it will get you a long way. A lot of guys have difficulty admitting their mistakes or oversights. So if you realized that the girl you like was right about something, even as small as who played a character on a TV show, let her know you realize she was right.
#5 I’m sorry. This is another one that is hard to many guys. Saying sorry will certainly get a girl’s attention. Apologizing from something as small as spilling your water to admitting you made a legitimate mistake is a big step. Girls will see that.
Being able to take the fault for something is a strong asset and girls love to hear that you are capable of that.
#6 I never thought about it like that. Whenever a guy responds to something I said with this instead of “I don’t know,” or “I’ve never heard of that,” I am so much more taken with him. It shows an openness to learn more and actually hear me out.
#7 I’m here for you. You would be surprised how much these four words can mean, especially when you live up to them. Whether she needs someone to vent to about work or her family just telling her you are there will mean a lot to her.
#8 I don’t understand. Can you explain it to me? Ah, a guy that wants to learn and asks a girl for help is so attractive. Yes, we all like a confident guy, but the more confident thing you can do is learn more about what you don’t understand.
So whether you ask her to explain the wage gap, the #MeToo movement, or how tampons work, being openminded and asking for her to explain it will surely catch her attention.
#9 Remember when… Pinpoint a moment you spent together before. Whether it was last week, last month, or last year, bringing up good times you’ve spent together will remind her of not just the moment, but also that you took notice and made a point to remember too.
#10 How can I help? Offering and asking to help with a heavy box or with planning an event is sweet. Instead of saying “let me help,” or “I’ll do this,” which can feel a touch patronizing, asking what you can do gives her a chance to see what would actually be helpful.
#11 That sucks. Yep, sometimes that is all we need to hear. If we complained about a tough day at work, a stressful time, or even traffic, there really isn’t anything you can do. So instead of throwing ideas out left and right, just agree that it sucks. Then, be there to sulk with us.
#12 I love how funny you are. Just the same as we love a guy who makes us laugh, we want to know we make you laugh too. Humor is such a big part of a romantic bond. Knowing you get her humor is important.
#13 What do you think about… One great thing to say to a girl you like is that you want to hear her opinion on something. Anything from a recipe to politics is fair game. She will appreciate you asking her opinion because it shows you actually care what it is.
#14 It’s your choice. I don’t mean to tell her she can always choose what to eat or what movie to watch, but if she asks you if she should cut her hair short or if you like that she has been working out more, tell her it is her choice and you like her for more than that.
Yes, we appreciate you telling us if we look better in orange or pink, but overall telling us you like us no matter how much makeup we wear, how our hair is styled, and what we wear means the most.
#15 Thank you. Appreciation goes a long way. I once helped a guy I liked to write a 10-page paper after he begged me, and he never said thank you. I felt like he didn’t appreciate all the time and effort I put in.
Just saying thank you can mean so much. Whether she got up to get you water or picked you up from the airport, say thank you. It is just polite.
#16 I want you to be comfortable. Yes, this is a biggie for this time in history, but really should always be a priority. You may think you are a nice guy and that this is a give in without you saying it, but just letting the girl you like know you want her to feel safe and comfortable can really take you far.
#17 You have a great laugh. Compliment her looks and mind are classics, but complimenting the little things that maybe only you notice because you like her really sticks out. Compliment her on the way she laughs, how she always smiles at babies, or even how she snorts when she laughs.
#18 You make me happy. Guys are not the best at sharing their feelings, a lot of girls aren’t either. But letting her know how she makes you feel will open her eyes. Letting her know you love spending time together or that time flies when you hang out is a great start.
#19 I like you. If you are out of ideas or just don’t know how to work any of these ideas into a conversation, just straight out tell her you like her. Yes, even girls can be oblivious to this. Yes, you may have given all the signs, but we aren’t perfect. So tell her.
#20 Nothing. That’s right. Sometimes what you need to do is say nothing. This is not about being the strong silent type. It is about knowing when to just listen.
If you are still wondering about the right things to say to a girl you like to get her to like you, I don’t know what else to tell you. If these things don’t work, you may want to move on.