Don’t expect anything more than sex from an FWB relationship. But if you exhibit signs you’re more than friends with benefits, take it to the next level.
You’re not supposed to think of a future together in a friends with benefits relationship. You’re only supposed to think about sex and fun. NO dating or catching feelings—it is purely casual. Well, even though we all say this and try to follow these rules, most of us end up breaking them. Are you showing signs you’re more than friends with benefits?
Some people aren’t cut out for an FWB relationship
You end up falling for the person and thinking about what it would be like to date them. Trust me, I’ve been there. I can’t do friends with benefits relationships.
I always get emotionally attached. Which, of course, leaves me heartbroken. Anyways, if you’re like me, it’s hard to not get emotionally attached to someone you’re sleeping with.
Signs you’re more than friends with benefits
Not in all friends with benefits relationships, but with some, there’s this point where you’re thinking maybe this casual hook-up can turn into something more. The relationship isn’t sticking to a casual path and deeper feelings are developing.
Okay, in simple terms, you like the person and you think they like you. It’s the classic recipe for a relationship, don’t you think? If you’re thinking there’s more to the relationship than just casual sex, put the pieces of the puzzle together. Sometimes, friends with benefits isn’t enough.
#1 You feel it. I can’t describe the feeling and neither can you, but you just know this isn’t casual. You have this gut feeling that there are mutual feelings floating around, and this is easily one of the first signs you’re more than friends with benefits. If you feel it, you’re probably right. This doesn’t mean they’re going to want something serious with you, but it does confirm that what you were feeling was right. They like you.
#2 You’re all over each other. When you’re around them, you both can’t get enough of each other. Now, usually in a friends with benefits relationship, there’s chemistry but not to the point where your faces are together more than they are apart. If there’s that much chemistry, maybe you should take a closer look into it.
#3 You both know about each other’s dating past. What’s an important rule of friends with benefits relationships? Not to talk about yourself too much. You don’t want to develop an emotional connection. If you start getting to know more about each other’s dating history, you will probably skipped this rule. This is much deeper than a casual relationship.
#4 You spend your free time together. Both you and your partner’s free time is valuable. You don’t want to waste your free time with someone you don’t enjoy being around. Though you seem to be spending your free time together and enjoying it. If this is happening, how can this only be a casual fling?
#5 You have those moments. Oh, you know what I’m talking about. The moments where it’s quiet and you’re staring into each other’s eyes, both wanting to say something. I’ve seen the movies, I know how it’s done. Those silences are filled with hidden emotion waiting to spill out.
#6 You travel together. Okay, if you’re still telling me this is a casual relationship, you’re crazy. You’re traveling together. No friends with benefits do that. If you’re traveling around the world and hook up with each other, then you need to ask yourself if this isn’t a relationship. And if it’s not, why not?
#7 You miss each other when apart. When you don’t see each other, you feel like something is missing. If that’s what is happening, check yourself. Are you sure this is just casual? It’s starting to sound like there are some underlying emotions.
#8 Sex isn’t always on the menu. Ah! So you’re friends with benefits but don’t always have sex when you hang out? Did you follow any of the rules I laid out in my article? If you’re hanging out and not having sex, you have feelings for each other. Or you’re lonely. All the same, I think it’s the first reason.
#9 You have each other’s back. Friends with benefits is based on having sex with people you feel comfortable with. That’s all good and dandy, but usually, you don’t do favors for each other, etc. With your friend with benefits, you help each other out throughout the day and support each other. Kind of sounds like a relationship, right?
#10 You stopped sleeping with other people. You may have had a couple of people you switched between, but you stopped sleeping with other people. Why is that? Think about it, you know the answer.
#11 You know their friends. And they know yours. We all know this isn’t casual if you meet friends. There’s literally no reason why you would bring your friends with benefits to any event where your friends or family would be. And if it’s the case, it looks like you’re more invested in the relationship than you thought.
#12 You date other people, but it’s meh. What can I say, you’ve gone on dates with other people but nothing really excites you. When you’re on the date, you’re thinking about your special friend with benefits and what you could be doing together.
#13 They do small things for you. If you come over, they have your favorite snacks stocked in the fridge or will let you pick out the movie. I know these are small things but they matter the most. If you are doing small and thoughtful things for each other, you both care about one another.
#14 You’re jealous. Maybe they bring up another person or are checking out someone. In a “normal” FWB, you wouldn’t care but in actuality you’re really jealous. Now, why would you be jealous if this is something casual? That’s because it’s not casual! Wake up!
#15 They hint on taking it forward. When you are talking, they low-key suggest you are great together. These smalls comments are hinting at something much bigger. Try to add up all those hints to paint the bigger picture.
Are you showing signs you’re more than friends with benefits? Maybe you and your partner need to sit down and have the ol’ “so… maybe… we should date?” conversation.