Squirting. Gushing. Female ejaculation. What is it really? Here, we uncover the myths that muddle up this fluid heralded as the “nectar of the gods.”
The female body is such a mystery—as if we’re not already confused about menstrual mood swings, hormones, the G-spot, and so many more. Both men and scientists have been boggled by another thing: female ejaculation.
However, female ejaculation is not new. Aristotle has mentioned it in his writings, and even the ancient Tantric texts has acknowledged its existence by calling it amrita, which means “nectar of the gods.” Furthermore, Galen of Pergamon wrote of female ejaculation as something that “manifestly flows from women as they experience the greatest pleasure in coitus.”
But what exactly is female ejaculation? There are women who can do it, and there are those who can’t *or won’t admit that they can*. There are even those who may be doing it but are totally unaware. Here, we hash out everything you need to know about female ejaculation and clear out the myths that muddle up this elusive fluid.
What is female ejaculation?
Female ejaculation is defined as the secretion or gushing—or even squirting—of liquid somewhere from the urethra during orgasm. It can be likened to a man’s ejaculation during orgasm when their members spew sperm. According to science, the female ejaculation produces a milky white fluid, which comes from the Skene glands, a tiny gland that drains into the urethra. The Skene gland is similar to a man’s prostate, although its exact function is unknown.
There’s a lot of confusion surrounding female ejaculation, further adding mystery to every woman’s glorious spot down there. While some say female ejaculation is a mere secretion of slightly thick, milky white, and scant fluid, there are those that associate the abundant gushing of clear, urine-like fluid to the same thing.
There are different studies done all over the world to study hundreds of women, all for the sake of female ejaculation, but they always come up with different results and different explanations as to what causes it. Some say it’s just pee from urinary incontinence. [Try: How to please a woman sexually and emotionally]
So which is which? Is female ejaculation a real phenomenon or a mere myth? Let’s settle this here, once and for all.
The myths behind female ejaculation—debunked
There are several myths surrounding female ejaculation. This is largely due to the fact that science hasn’t been able to crack the code and find the formula behind why or how this happens. However, here’s what the myths are saying about the unicorn of female orgasm, and what science really has to say about it.
#1 It’s just pee. In a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, scientists found that the fluid that comes out from the female’s urethra during orgasm is not really pee. The substance excreted from the female urethra just before or after orgasm actually exhibited characteristics of what is known as prostate plasma instead of actual urine.
This prostate plasma, which is similar in composition as the stuff guys ejaculate along with sperm when they come, is excreted from the Skene’s gland, which researchers believe function similarly as the prostate glands in males. [Check out: 12 questions about female sexuality–finally answered!]
#2 All women can learn to squirt. And that, in fact, there are expert sex educators out there to teach women exactly how to do it. According to these so-called experts, any woman can do it—after all, they all have a Skene’s gland. However, there’s really more to it than that.
According to research, 6 to 60 percent of women have experienced gushing of fluid during orgasms. This is a huge margin, as the research lists many factors that can determine a woman’s ability to squirt. These factors include the placement of the Skene’s gland and the ability to produce prostate fluid.
#3 Female ejaculation is squirting. You may have seen a female porn star or two squirt and gush cupfuls of liquid at a time and think that this is female ejaculation. Well, no wonder. Squirting and gushing are widely interchanged and associated with female ejaculation, but they are actually different.
The squirts that you see in porn is actually more like pee coming from the bladder and is different from the whitish, thick liquid that comes from the female prostate. So basically, what you see in porn *or maybe in real life, when a girl brags about her ability to squirt at will* is simply pee and not really ejaculation.
#4 Not all porn is real. So, the earlier myth brings us to this next one. Folks, not everything you see in porn is real. In fact, stop using it as your yardstick for your own or others’ sexual performance. For one, when you see a female porn star squirting huge amounts of fluid out of her vagina, it can be faked by putting in water before filming the scene, or having her pee on-cam.
These professionals may not easily be relaxed while being filmed on set with a handful of on-looking crew, and there will be more choreography and arranging going on than you realize. They may not even be relaxed enough to feel genuine pleasure, so they won’t be able to squirt on command, much less do it multiple times in between takes.
#5 Female ejaculation happens when you stimulate the G-spot. While the G-spot is a popular anatomy spot for women and men who want their women to come, the G-spot isn’t responsible for female ejaculation. The confusion may come merely from the fact that the Skene’s gland is located near the lower end of the urethra, near the G-spot. There are women who ejaculate when their G-spots are stimulated, while there are women who just can’t.
#6 Female ejaculation is a sign of extreme pleasure. This myth is perhaps derived from men who ejaculate when they’re about to come. Therefore, there are those who think the same should be happening to women when they feel intense pleasure and are reaching orgasm. There may even be those who believe female ejaculation, or a “wet orgasm” is so much better than a “dry” one. [Check out: 18 girl-on-top tips to make sex a lot sexier!]
However, this just puts pressure on women to either learn to squirt or lag behind the “squirters,” who can often exhibit a sexual superiority complex. The reality is, females who orgasm without squirting can actually experience the same amount of pleasure, or even more, compared to someone who’s a pro in female ejaculation. Actually, ejaculation by women is not really a reliable gauge to begin with of how much pleasure they’re experiencing.
#7 You’ll see female ejaculation when it comes. Actually, this isn’t really the case. While women can release somewhere between one teaspoon and a capful of fluid, not all female ejaculate is being released from the vagina. There are cases when women are nearing orgasm and the fluid is pushed back up into the bladder as the vaginal muscles contract and tighten. This is called retrograde ejaculation, and women can do this without them even knowing.
So there you have it—the low-down on what is really happening “down there” when women ejaculate. Although there are still plenty of debates and further research that needs to be done on female ejaculation, there are some lights at the end of the tunnel that tell us: folks, it is real.
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However, women should not feel pressured to squirt and use it as a gauge of their sexuality or prowess in bed. Men shouldn’t have any illusions about it, either; unlike what is seen in porn flicks and clips, there’s really more to the female ejaculation and orgasm than meets the eye.