How do you know if your new fling has what it takes to be your new beau? Here are 12 ways to decide if they are just a hookup or someone worth dating.
Everybody goes through this phase: the one where you have to decide if your current hookup has what it takes to become your new special someone. There are always signs that point to whether someone could be your new beau or should just remain a hookup.
I’ve made the big mistake of taking a one night stand to the next level, when a single night was more than enough. Taking a one-time date to the next level may seem like a good idea—but can quickly turn sour.
While you might care for this person and want to make them your significant other, it doesn’t change the fact that some people just aren’t significant other material. Ultimately, the decision is yours; however, with our help, perhaps you can know for sure.
How to determine if they’re dating material or if they should just remain a hook-up
So what are the signs you should be looking for when it comes to this difficult decision? We have looked high and low and put together a series of comparisons for you to decide whether they’re dating material or just a hook-up.
Dating Material Characteristics – everything that shows they could be something more!
#1 You actually want something more. Do you want to take things from a simple hookup to actually calling them your boyfriend or girlfriend? If you have feelings that are more than just a little fling, then you obviously think they could be something more. Developing feelings for someone you’re just hooking up with is a surefire sign they could potentially be significant other material.
#2 They actually want to talk to you. Sounds pretty standard, right? What I mean is that they talk to you even though there are no plans to hookup soon. They talk to you throughout the day just to see how your day is going, what you’re up to, or just because they want to have a conversation with you.
This behavior shows that they are interested in you for more than your killer bedroom skills. By keeping in touch with you without an ulterior motive, they are proving that they could be more than just a hookup. Bonus points if they ask you about your family and intimate details about your life!
#3 You have more in common than just bumping uglies. If they’re engaging in extended conversation and you realize that you have more in common than just getting naked together, it could be a sign that something more may develop.
People who are dating material are people who are similar to you and can engage in activities aside from sex. If you have a lot in common and enjoy many of the same shows and activities, it’s a sign that he or she just might be dating material.
#4 You want to tell people about them. I’m talking to all of you ladies out there! We all know you like to gush about your person of interest. And if you’re doing so, then you must think they have the potential to be something more.
If you’re simply hooking up with someone without thinking about making them yours for good, you don’t go around telling all of your friends about them. The fact that you feel the need to talk about them suggests you care for them more than just a little fling. And for you fellas out there – if you’re telling your buddies about that special someone *other than your hookup details* then she’s already proved she’s dating material.
#5 You can see a future with them. Even if it’s just the two of you hitting the town together on a special date night, envisioning the future means that you’ve already been thinking about dating them and engaging in more than just a few nights of fun.
If they’re dating material, you will be able to see yourself with them romantically instead of a casual hookup here and there. Visualization is a huge part of being able to tell whether or not someone is dating material. If you can imagine it happening, chances are that it can become reality.
#6 They want to show you off. Do they want to take you to an actual restaurant or out on the town with their friends? Then they’re definitely dating material. Anyone who wants to show you off to the world and be by your side is someone who would make a great special someone.
Hookup Characteristics – How to tell if you should just stick to getting freaky in the sheets.
#1 You two only really talk when it’s time to plan the next hookup. This is the most important sign that you should just stick with hooking up and not take anything further with this person. If they can’t even take the initiative to get to know you past your private bits, they shouldn’t have the luxury of dating you.
#2 You keep quiet about them. If you really thought this person could be something more than just someone you spend your nights with, then you would be talking your friends’ ears off about them. You would want to tell people how great they are.
So, if you find yourself lying about your whereabouts, or just not talking about this person in general, it’s a sign that they should remain where they are in your life.
#3 You have absolutely nothing in common. If you have nothing in common, other than the fact that you both enjoy each other’s bodies, dating is a no-go. If you two have had a conversation other than making plans, you’ve likely discovered that you really don’t have anything in common. How could you make a hookup your significant other when you don’t have anything in common?
#4 You just don’t have feelings for them. There’s a difference between wanting to take someone’s clothes off and having feelings for them. Oftentimes, people who are just hookups or little flings don’t ever develop feelings for each other. If you find you’re not really into them intellectually, or you just don’t have intimate feelings for them, then they’re definitely going to remain in the “hookup” category.
#5 You see this as a short-lived relationship. Or, in other words, you don’t see an extensive future with this person. If you’re describing them to your friends with a shrug or waving off their questions altogether, then this person is not someone you actually see yourself with other than in between the sheets.
If this person was dating material, then you would be able to see yourself dating them, growing, and forming a relationship with them. If you’re not even thinking about continuing anything further with them, they’re definitely just a hookup.
#6 You wouldn’t be able to handle them in a relationship. Anything and everything you’ve got to know about them has told you that you definitely could not date them. Whether it’s the way they chew their food, their life goals, or even just their little habits you’ve picked up on so far, if they drive you nuts, there is no way this person could possibly be dating material. Keep them firmly in hookup territory so you can leave their strange habits behind when you leave.
The line between a hookup and someone with real dating potential can be thin at times. Luckily, you can use this list to determine whether or not you should take it to the next step!