Blindfolds and sex go together like peanut butter and jelly. Using these 14 tips, you can incorporate the joy of using blindfolds in the bedroom.
According to Jessica O’Reilly, author of The New Sex Bible, blindfolds are the most popular bedroom prop. “The sensory deprivation you experience when you eliminate the sense of sight only heightens the perception of other senses, making every touch and every whisper all the more titillating.”
In addition to heightening the senses, blindfolds also reduce performance pressure and inhibitions. When you blindfold your partner, you are free to cut loose and forget about any self-esteem issues you have that might interfere with pleasure.
Sex with blindfolds
You don’t have to be into hardcore BDSM in order to enjoy sex play with blindfolds. Blindfolds are sexy, simple, and fun. Below are some tips for using them during sex.
#1 Experiment with power play. Blindfolds are a great way to shift the balance of power in a relationship from time to time. If you are not usually the dominant one when it comes to sex, blindfolding your partner might give you the confidence you need to take the reins once in a while.
#2 Take advantage of your dominant streak. Blindfold your partner and ask them to do specific things to you. Instruct them to perform amazing oral sex or allow them to run their hands up and down your body. You’ll love watching them enjoy exploring your body as if it’s their first time.
#3 Pleasure your blindfolded partner. While your partner is blindfolded, do things to them, too. Kiss, stroke, and lick them while they are deprived of sight. Then, change pace or stop altogether to create waves of anticipation. Slow way down or don’t move until they beg you to please touch them again.
#4 Take inspiration from the movies. In the movie 9 ½ Weeks, Mickey Rourke blindfolded Kim Basinger in the kitchen and teased her with all kinds of different foods. It was super hot. You can do the same thing by creating a smorgasbord of sexy, tasty foods to tempt and excite your blindfolded partner. Make sure to include plenty of lickable treats.
#5 Remember, it’s all about sensation. Being blindfolded heightens the other senses. Run an ice cube over your partner’s body when they least expect it to really enhance those heightened senses.
#6 Give an erotic massage. Start with a feather tickler and lightly run it over your blindfolded partner’s body. Once they’re excited, move on to lightly teasing their skin with your fingers. Add massage oil or lube and just let your hands explore freely the favorite parts of your lover’s body. Alternate your touch between light circles on small areas and long, firm strokes on larger areas, like their limbs. The change in sensations will send them over the edge and leave them begging for more.
#7 Masturbate blindfolded for your partner. Many couples like the idea of mutual masturbation, but some people are too self-conscious to actually “perform” for their partner. One way to get past this is to try masturbating for your partner wearing a blindfold. When you can’t see your lover watching you, you’ll feel more at ease, be able to focus solely on your own pleasure, and your partner is sure to enjoy the show.
#8 Add sex toys to the mix. Whether it’s your blindfolded partner’s first time, or they’ve had their eye on a new one, adding sex toys while blindfolded really spices things up and gets everyone excited. Start slow when you first introduce a new toy, so as not to startle your partner.
#9 Use earplugs, too. When you limit sight and sound, you enhance the sense of touch dramatically. Things like feathers, soft fabrics, and fur will create a pleasurable sensory overload.
#10 Watch for signs of stress. Although wearing a blindfold isn’t dangerous, there is a level of trust involved. Some people, especially those who are claustrophobic, find being blindfolded terrifying, so be on the lookout for signs of stress when your partner is blindfolded. Also, if you’re not totally comfortable with wearing a blindfold, don’t be afraid to speak up if your lover suggests it.
#11 Tie your blindfold on the side. Tying a blindfold is as simple as tying a shoe. However, be mindful of how tight you’re tying it to avoid causing pain to your partner or damage to their eyes. Also, tying a blindfold on the side of the head rather than in the back will ensure there is no discomfort when lying down.
#12 You don’t really need to spend any money on blindfolds. Although there are a ton of cool blindfolds on the market, you don’t really need to spend any money at all in order to enjoy blindfolding each other during sex. Silk scarves, nylon tights, and other articles of clothing make fine blindfolds.
#13 Make sure the room is safe. This probably sounds like common sense, but accidents do happen, and you don’t want to have to explain to an ER nurse how you received a gash on your leg that requires sutures if you don’t have to.
#14 A word of caution. Men are visual creatures, so blindfolding your male partner might actually lessen his arousal. On the other hand, women tend to have the opposite reaction to being blindfolded. It releases their inhibitions so they feel more inclined to fantasize, which increases their arousal.
Sex positions to try while blindfolded
Blindfolded sex is definitely awesome, but performing the following positions while blindfolded can really give you the full sensory experience.
#1 The private dancer. For this position, the man is blindfolded and sits on the edge of the bed or chair. The woman faces away from him and sits in his lap. On the upstroke, she leans into him. On the downstroke, she leans away from him for the deepest penetration.
This position places all the control in her hands. For someone who isn’t used to this role, it helps that her partner is blindfolded, so she can fully accept the exhibitionist role.
#2 The rock ‘n’ roll. For this position, both lovers wear a blindfold. The man sits against the headboard with his legs straight out in front of him. The woman sits in his lap, facing him, with her feet placed on either side of him at his hips. He pulls her hips into his as she rocks back and forth.
This position is great for blindfolds because it requires minimal movement, yet includes the intimacy factor of being face to face. It also requires the participants to sense their partner’s rhythm in order to stay in sync.
#3 X marks the spot. Have one partner lay on the bed on their back, blindfolded. The other partner spends a few minutes licking and kissing their body. When the blindfolded person is aroused, tie their hands and feet to the bed. Alternate between penetration and oral, and change things up periodically with props such as feather ticklers, sex toys, ice, and other sensation-inducing items.
The position produces a bevy of sensations the blindfolded person would never have experienced, had they been able to see. Just be sure to watch your partner’s reaction to being tied up. Some people do not like the idea of being restrained, so proceed with caution.
If you haven’t tried using blindfolds during sex, you’re missing out. The sensory deprivation of your sight only enhances all the other senses to produce some of the most amazing sex you’ll ever have.
If you’re curious, but a bit hesitant, talk with your partner about blindfolded sex and see where they stand. With the preceding tips in mind, the two of you could embark on one of the hottest sexual adventures together.