Afraid of feeling tongue tied on a date? Here are 40 really great first date questions that will make you look good and give you a lot of talk about.
First dates are always uneasy business.
Unless you’re extremely confident or really smooth, the first few minutes can play a big part in whether your first date will have a happy ending or not.
First dates are a bit like a job interview, but yet, they should never ever feel like a job interview.
If the conversations just start to feel like a series of questions to your date, they may look forward to ending the date instead of meeting you for the next date.
When you’re on a first date with a special someone, always start the conversation with a pleasant introduction and a genuine compliment.
After all, compliments are a great way to let your date know that you find them interesting and likeable.
And it’ll help them open up.
First date questions and what you need to know
Questions are easy to ask, but the perfect questions are ones that lead to conversations.
Don’t get personal or say anything that may leave your date feeling awkward or embarrassed.
You may be nervous, but that’s no reason to speak out the first thing that comes to your mind.
We’ve got a long list of great first date questions that you can use and impress, but remember to mix your questions so it’s a good blend of short answers and long answers.
At the same time, remember that some of the potentials you meet may be shy or may need a few minutes to open up and talk to you. So don’t wonder about why your date isn’t talking unless they’re staring at their watch or frowning. Say something about yourself to help them feel comfortable or smile warmly. It’ll surely help your date feel more relaxed.
The right way to use these first date questions
The first thing you need to know here is to avoid throwing one question after another at your date. Wait for your date to respond with their answer, and then wait for about ten more seconds by playing with your food or looking at the menu to see if your date’s ready to ask you a few questions.
If your date doesn’t ask you anything, look at them warmly, smile and ask another question. Hopefully, your date will try to get to know you better really soon.
CAUTION: 3 things to remember before using this list
This is something most first daters overlook. Keep these 3 pointers in mind or you may end up alone on your date.
#1 Mix your questions. The questions provided here are a good mix of open ended questions that can lead to more questions and a few easy ‘yes or no’ questions. Start with the simple questions to see how much of a talker your date really is. And use the open ended questions to have many more conversations that’ll make you seem like a great conversationalist.
#2 Don’t stick to the list. Use a few of these first date questions to get things warmed up and then, forget all about these questions. The more you try to stick to a list of questions, the lesser your chances of impressing your date because you’ll be so focused on jumping from one question to the next that you’ll actually forget to see any chances to extend a perfect question into an exciting conversation.
#3 Don’t memorize the list. That’s the worst thing you can do. If you sit in front of your date and recite one question after another, you’ll make the date feel like a job interview. Read these questions, keep a few in your mind or store them on your cell phone, and use this list as ice breakers when the conversation starts to run dry.
40 first date questions to have a great conversation
Before you even use these 40 questions, read this very effective guide on what to talk about on a first date. You can definitely use those tips to create natural conversations that’ll make you a smooth talker and a charmer instantly.
And once you know how to create long conversations using those tips on what to talk about on a date, use these 40 first date questions to create new conversation ideas.
#1 Do you like this place?
#2 What do you usually like to drink?
#3 How’s your salad/main course?
#4 Have you come here before? / Do you come here often?
#5 How was your day?
#6 Where do you work? / What do you do at work?
#7 What kind of music do you listen to?
#8 What’s your favorite cuisine?
#9 Which is your favorite restaurant?
#10 What kind of movies do you like watching?
#11 What do you do after work every day?
#12 What do you do for fun?
#13 Where did you study?
#14 What’s your favorite vacation destination?
#15 What’s your idea of a good time/conversation?
#16 Are you a cat or a dog person?
#17 If you ruled the world, what would you change?
#18 Which is the better sex, according to you?
#19 Which parent are you closer to?
#20 What are your biggest turn offs about the opposite sex?
#21 Do you like dressing in casuals or formals?
#22 What do you think about chick flicks and which was the last one you saw?
#23 Do you always look this good? /Are you always this charming?
#24 Are you a reader or are you more into games?
#25 Who’s the person in your own life you admire most?
#26 Do you like spontaneity or do you like routine?
#27 Who do you speak to when you’re having a hard time in love?
#28 Do you have a childhood memory that makes you smile every time you think of it?
#29 If you could travel the world, which are the five places you’d never miss?
#30 So what’s your current passion in life?
#31 Are you close to your family?
#32 What do you hate most about meeting someone on a first date?
#33 Are you an early morning person or a late night person?
Here are a few questions that you can ask only if your date warms up to you and is interested in making conversations with you. Some are funny, some lead to more conversations and a couple of them predict the romance.
#34 Which part of your body is the most ticklish?
#35 How old were you when you had your first crush?
#36 What happens on a regular guys’/girls’ night out with your friends?
#37 How would you define a relationship?
#38 So how long ago was your last relationship?
#39 What did you think of our date today before we met each other?
#40 And what do you think now?
These 40 first date questions are really easy to use at any point in your conversation during your date. Try them, and you’ll definitely seem like a really fun conversationalist and leave a great first impression too!