Need to increase your success rate when you finally ask that special someone out? Here are some surefire ways to get them to say yes!
If you want to ask someone out, you need to consider what sort of ploy you will use to get that person to agree to go out with you. You can’t just surprise them with an over-the-top gesture, especially if you hardly know each other. That’s why we’ve categorized these tips according to how well you know the one you’ll be asking out and how much willpower you have to see it through.
Keep it casual
These methods are designed for asking out random strangers or acquaintances that hardly know you. They are pretty safe with little to no financial investment involved, but you do have to put yourself out there and develop enough confidence to pull these off smoothly.
#1 Use a witty pun, joke or statement, but make sure the seriousness of your question gets through. Here are some of the best lines we found on the Interwebz:
– “Excuse me, but I’m really attracted to you, and according to Newton’s Law of Gravitation, you’re attracted to me too.”
– “You see my friend over there? He wants to know if you think I’m cute.”
– “If I were to ask you out on a date, would your answer be the same as the answer to this question?”
#2 Bet on something fun that you are SURE to win, and ask for a date as the prize. Notice how I emphasized the word “sure”? That means that you should not challenge the person you like to something that you are not an expert at. Remember to make a backup wager, in case you lose.
#3 Ask them to do something ordinary and joke about it being a date – then ask them out on a real date. Tell the person that this feels like the best date ever, but would it be okay if they go out with you to an actual restaurant or [insert original yet tasteful date idea here].
#4 Use emojis. Even a simple “girl emoji + boy emoji + coffee emoji = question mark” will do. It’s cute, so there’s a 90% chance it’ll go over well with the person you like.
#5 Give her a flower. You want to hear something crazy? Guys don’t give flowers to girls they like anymore. They usually do it on special occasions or if they did something wrong. So, it’s not so crazy to think that giving someone a single flower before you ask them out is now considered out of the ordinary.
Up the ante
This means that you may need to go public with your affections. A word of warning for you eager beavers out there: Make sure that you know the person well enough to do this or you have had at least several encounters and know each other’s name. Sometimes, asking out random strangers using these methods can go awry and end with the phrase, “Do I know you?”
#1 Make a Snapchat story, Vine or a Flipagram. Take lots of visual puns and make sure you look cute in all your photos and videos. The crazier it is, the better. And remember, try not to do anything illegal.
#2 Do something out of a popular romcom or their favorite movie. Either do your research or find out what’s new and popular out there. Maybe check out what shows or movies the object of your affections is into, and get some inspiration from there.
#3 Use food. It’s pretty easy to use food to ask someone out. You can get creative, and most sellers give you customized treats for this sort of thing.
#4 Highlight words out of a book you think they’d like. It’s a book. How hard would it be to find the words “would”, “you”, “like”, “to”, “go”, “out”, “with” and “me?” Bonus points because this idea isn’t even viral yet.
#5 Ask a barista to write a message on their coffee cup. Or better yet, ask the barista to yell the phrase out for you. It’s pretty brave *or cowardly, whichever way you look at it* and you’ll get an immediate answer. So will the entire coffee shop.
Go hard or go home
Now, these types of gestures are specifically designed to ask someone you’ve known for a long time. You can take a risk, and use these to ask a crush who doesn’t know anything about you, but you should make sure that you are fully invested in this endeavor. You can’t use these to ask someone you don’t even like that much – that’s just a waste of time, money and effort.
#1 Make it big and expensive. Or purchase something that has a killer installment plan. Aerial advertising, billboards, jewelry – there are so many options to choose from, especially if you have a credit card.
#2 Use lots and lots and lots of props. A hundred post-it notes, two hundred bags of gummy bears, three hundred sacks of potpourri? We’re *sort of* kidding. It’s best to use something themed and funny when using props to ask someone out. Step into Wal-Mart and let the aisles inspire you.
#3 Invest some time and effort in a scavenger hunt. There are numerous variations of scavenger hunts you can copy off of the Internet, but we suggest that you use items and locations fit for the person you like. Make sure the notes are cute, that there are moderately expensive gifts involved, and that you are the prize at the end of the hunt.
#4 Ask your friends to pitch in. Something about having all your friends involved makes the gesture more sincere. Ask your friends to help you make a video or have them wear funny costumes when you’re asking the person you like out.
#5 Ask random strangers with good hearts to pitch in. These are the stuff viral YouTube videos are made of. Try these and see if you get your pride’s worth:
– Ask strangers to hold out signs leading her to you, with the signs cumulatively saying, “Will you go out with me?”
– Ask them to sing the bridge of a love song with you as you step into your crush’s periphery. The bridge is always the best part!
– Ask the strangers to cheer you on and mildly pressure your lady love to say, “Yes” when you ask her out in front of them.
We can’t guarantee that these will all work for you and the person you like, but we’re pretty sure that the sentiment itself will get you extra points. Who cares what other people think?
The important thing is that you opened yourself up to the person you like and followed your instincts. If you think about it, that’s still more than the 0% chance of success when you don’t even ask at all.