Are you really ready for rebound sex? The idea may sound fascinating, but these 13 questions will help you uncover the truth better than anything else!
Is rebound sex a good idea?
Or is it a disastrous one?
There may be contradicting views on rebound sex.
But more often than not, it’s not the idea that’s good or bad. It’s the two people who are involved in the act that makes it painful or enjoyable.
Rebound sex can work wonders for many ex-lovers who have just broken up.
On the other hand, it can also leave many other ex-lovers more hurt and confused than ever.
What is rebound sex?
Rebound sex is a no strings attached sexual relationship between two people, and it involves at least one person who’s just had a break up.
It’s been said many times that the best way to get over someone is by getting under someone else.
And a rebound relationship works around that idea.
You have a hard time holding yourself back from contacting an ex or thinking about them all the time, so you involve yourself in another relationship *purely sexual to prevent more emotional drama* to try and completely get over your ex by distracting yourself.
Yes, rebound sex works, and it can work very well too. But there are odd circumstances where rebound sex can actually rebound on you and have damaging results too!
The most common reasons for rebound sex
Before we get to finding out if you’re ready for rebound sex, you need to ask yourself why you’re really getting into one, and what you expect to get out of a rebound relationship with a stranger or a crush.
Here are 8 common reasons for rebound sex, and chances are, you may be experiencing one of these reasons in your life right now.
#1 It’s an excuse. You tell the world and yourself that you just need someone to get over your ex, but deep inside, you’re just looking for a good excuse to sleep with random people because you’ve felt so restricted when you were in the relationship.
#2 Revenge sex. You want your ex to burn. You want your ex to know you’re having sex with someone else and you’re hoping that it’ll piss them off *which it definitely will IF your ex is still in love with you*
#3 Mask the emotional pain. You think having sex with someone new will help you feel better and quell the emotional pain you feel inside.
#4 You want to break free. You just want to have fun. You’re sick and tired of wallowing in self pity and you just want to fill your life with adventure and fun all over again. [Confession: I can’t wait to be single again!]
#5 You’re horny. You crave sexual intimacy and you miss having sex. You want to hold someone in your arms and you want to experience the bliss of carnal pleasure, with someone… anyone!
#6 Distraction. Your ex is running circles in your mind 24/7 and you just want to fill that space with something else. You want to stop thinking about your ex and you’re ready to take that big sexual step to push your ex’s thoughts away from your mind.
#7 You’re being reckless. You don’t know what you want, you’re confused and reckless. You aren’t thinking through your decisions and you’re just going with the flow. Your friend’s told you rebound sex works, and you’re diving headfirst into it without thinking if it’s right for you.
#8 The ego boost. You’re feeling low on confidence and you feel like a complete loser. You think shacking up with a sexy someone on a one night stand will make you feel better about yourself.
Why do so many rebound relationships go wrong?
Rebound sex can be great to get over a break up. But instead of wondering if it’s good or bad, you need to focus on whether you’re ready for something like that. Of course, getting into the sack can help you get over someone *even if it’s just momentarily* but would you know where to draw the line?
Most people feel worse after rebound sex, not because rebound sex sucks, but because they get into something without asking themselves if they were ready for it in the first place.
13 rebound sex questions to ask yourself before getting into one
Has the thought of having rebound sex with someone ever crossed your mind? Have you considered it, or even been excited by the idea? Here are 13 questions you need to ask yourself.
If you can answer these questions and convince yourself with the right answers, perhaps, you’re ready for it. On the other hand, if you can’t really answer a few of these questions, maybe you just need more time or another way to heal your aching heart.
#1 Can you disassociate sex from love? You may think this is easy. After all, you’re just having sex, and not falling in love, right? But for many of us, we feel an intense connection with the person as soon as we have passionate sex with them. And it gets worse if you’re a woman because women always have a harder time disassociating sex from love.
If you fall in love with your rebound, you’re only going from the frying pan into the fire. And you’ll feel worse because your heart will be torn between two people who may never really love you back!
#2 Are you in a rational frame of mind? You may be a sweet and innocent thing just looking for a fling to heal your heart. But if you’re not sure what you want or can’t point a finger on why rebound sex is your best way to get over a break up, you may find yourself in the company of several people who use you to their advantage in your weak moment.
#3 Do you compare? Do you find yourself comparing your ex with your rebound all the time? Even if you like someone or are interested in hooking up with someone on a rebound, do you compare this person to your ex?
If you’re doing something like this, chances are, you aren’t looking for someone new, you’re just looking for someone similar to your ex to replace the void in your heart. Remember, your rebound is someone you’re using to have fun, they’re not your ex’s replacement.
#4 Do you think a rebound will heal you? A rebound is a distraction, nothing more. Don’t jump into just about anyone’s bed in the hope that you’ll start to feel better as soon as you start having sex with them. It doesn’t work that way.
If you get into a rebound relationship with someone, you need to do it because the person you’re having sex with is fun and both of you share sizzling sexual chemistry. The sexual chemistry you feel may create a hint of infatuation, and the high of the infatuation will cheer you up.
#5 Have you found the right person for a rebound? You can’t have rebound sex with an older ex, or someone you like. There’s a big chance that the physical intimacy will turn into emotional intimacy very soon. The best person for a rebound is someone who understands your needs and doesn’t have any long term expectations from you.
#6 Are you sure you want to move on? Have you decided to move on for good? Don’t use a rebound relationship to get back with your ex or to show them just how awesome you are. Use it to distract yourself and get your ex’s thoughts out of your mind.
#7 Can you overcome the guilt? If you still love your ex, you may feel terribly guilty when you have sex with someone else. Your mind may convince you that having sex with your rebound is cheating, especially when you’re in love with your ex. And if you didn’t like the sexual experience with your rebound, you may feel dirty and used.
#8 Are you excited to have a rebound relationship? Does that thought excite you and make you happy? If the idea of having sex with someone else, or even meeting someone else with the intention of having sex makes you happy, well, good for you. It’s a happy sign that you are indeed interested in moving on instead of pining over your ex.
#9 Can you avoid falling in love with this person? This is something you need to keep in mind. A person who is interested in your rebound arrangement is interested in you only because of the sex you’re offering them. You’re using them to get over your ex, and they’re using you to have sex with a hottie like you. The odds of something like this turning into mutual love are slim. Are you sane enough to differentiate love from a sexual arrangement?
#10 Why do you want to do this? Be truthful to yourself, and don’t lie. You can have rebound sex with someone to get over an ex, but if that’s your only intention, you’ll only feel worse the very minute you orgasm. Use rebound sex as a distraction while your heart heals. Use the distraction to unhook the hooks that your ex has left behind in your heart. Rebound sex won’t heal you, time will.
#11 Are you sexually attracted to your rebound? You should be. If you’re having sex with someone you’re attracted to and like as a person, chances are, you’ll feel good about yourself. On the other hand, if you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to just for the sake of having rebound sex, you may not enjoy what you’re doing and you’d feel worse about yourself.
#12 Do you know where to draw the line? Many guys and girls who are looking for a rebound just don’t know this answer. They get carried away and end up throwing their lives away or risk getting stereotyped as the neighborhood slut.
Look at rebound sex has a discreet short term relationship with no strings attached, not as a one night stand where you hop and jump from one person to another. Remember, this is your weak moment, and there will always be several opportunists *people who have a crush on you, and even your friends!* waiting to use you and abuse you as soon as the word goes out that you’re looking for a casual fling.
#13 Do you think it’ll work for you? You’re the only person who can answer this. Rebound sex doesn’t work for many people because they’re not clear in the head before jumping into a fling.
Try to heal your broken heart and try to have a nice time by meeting friends and having fun with them. If that doesn’t work, you can try to look for a rebound as a last resort. After all, rebound relationships are effective, but they’re like landmines for a weak and broken heart!
Don’t rush into rebound sex
If you’re sure rebound sex is just what you’re looking for, approach the idea of rebound sex as a casual date. Take your time, flirt with your rebound, have fun and try to have a nice time when both of you are together instead of trying to make rebound sex seem like a sleazy arrangement. And chances are, you may start to feel better about yourself very soon.
So are you ready to have rebound sex to get over your unforgettable ex? These 13 questions would definitely help you figure that answer for yourself!